Self Pity

To experience self-pity is I'm sorry for you. Self-pity is prone to crippling and inactive can speak and be compared to trapped in quicksand, slowly reveling, then drowning a swamp of shame, self doubt and negative self-image.

It is a very powerful emotion. But when we feel self-pity, we comment on them other than rare, I'm sorry for themselves. It is often observed in people with very low self-dischargeAppreciation.

Instead, we tell the story of the situation that happened to us, and this causes the feeling, and our over-riding self-pity encouraged the audience make arrangements, or with us.

Arrangements in self-pity is like forming a conspiracy together. The self-pity there must be supplied to order, so it requires complicity and agreement, both in us and others to stay alive. This in turn fuels our sense of compassionus, holds us captive.

Here's a little story that skillfully demonstrates this principle.

An old Native American grandfather taught his grandson about life.

"In each of us there are two wolves fighting constantly," he said.

"One of the wolves is positive and is filled with kindness peace, peace, love and. The other wolf is negative and filled with fear, anxiety, self-pity and self-doubt."

"Grandfather," said the boy. "If theWolves are always struggling to win over? "

"The one you feed the most," said the grandfather.

How we decide to go another way?

How can we not vote on the negative, feed devouring wolf in us?

As the old saying goes, "Misery Loves Company".

As this powerful sense of evoking an appropriate response from the other, then treading the path compassion can be a powerful habit. As with all habits, they can spoil it and well nourishedtough and prevent us from choosing a better way.

Choice is a gateway that opens up many possibilities for action.

Unfortunately, if we go through the gateway and tread our path towards self-pity, we are preventing us from seeing the other door that leads to the satisfaction of the path marked positive action, and understanding.

Sometimes the habit of self-pity is rooted deep, and we acknowledge that we have fallen in the pitPity us.

However, if we recognize that we have this tendency to do with situations like this, we can see often when we swim in the pool and compassion drag ourselves out of it painful, after swimming for a while.

An effective tool is to write down everything under the title, I sorry for me because .....

Put the list aside overnight and read it the next day. You can often see more clearly that some of these ideas canexceeded treated by action or distress, some talk about them, others only on the list, while others caused terrible embarrassment.

Have courage and Be an Enabler

It can be very powerful, helping someone to see that self-pity is the name for the feelings she has.

Trying to talk positive ways with someone about who can drown in self pity like a flag from the beach instead of being to help a drowning manSwimming with a lifeline.

My experience is that someone will offer a lifeline in the form of actually naming the feeling or experience as a self-pity, can increase first huge amounts of anger.

It takes courage and a degree of love and concern for the person. We often come from being with someone who is self-pity, are fully involved, with a sense of unease and shame.

We know this because we prefer to avoid them would know whencollude with them again. It does not make us feel good to us.

However, the sheer truth is often later than a positive experience obtained.

Help prevent your child to walk the path to self-pity.

* Not model this behavior themselves.

* Discourage pouts.

* Check your child name his feelings.

* Provide opportunities for the quiet, gentle and safe discussion.

* Build your child emotionally.

The differencebetween self-pity and sadness and sorrow

It is necessary to distinguish between self-pity and pain and emotional hurt.

There are many times when the appropriate response to a situation, sadness, grief and sorrow.

This is more easy to see how we usually use the expression of these other languages, as I feel as if my heart is breaking, or I never thought I could so feel much sadness.

Active listening allows us to hear the pain in thisand it also allows the expression. Grief scattered over time and allows the mourning as a funeral.

It is important in our concern for others and ourselves, we understand, recognize that and know the difference between self-pity and sorrow.