Once upon a time there was a young woman who had some problems as a child. Her mum and dad both worked long hours to her the things she wanted to give and she believed that since they are not to much, they did not like they were. As a teenager she thought she did not understand because it rules for their behavior and they re-interpreted this to mean she did not love her. She used this interpretation of her childhood as the basis of their life history. . . Blame their parents for their ownFailures. She is still tellingthe history and she is still trying to live happily.
What is your story and how often you want to say?
They talk about how your mother was an alcoholic and you were embarrassed to bring friends home? They say that for every problem you have in your life now - with relationships, at school or at work?
They talk about how your father was never there for you and you tell the story over and over again because it is not his fault It is aSuccess at work or in other areas of your life? After all, he has not come to every game Little League, missed its 10th Birthday because he was on a business trip, and sometimes was not to say at home, good night. If he is the story that your father ever anything positive for you and you have priority to be? Is it overshadow the good things that have happened in your life and no major accomplishes you made? My father was never there for me and therefore. . .
Have you spent hours of work with therapists to tell only the return of your old story and reinforce the misunderstanding (or perhaps reality) of the past years?
Is your story you can do everything wrong in your life to someone or something to blame in the past? Are you tired of living like this to do the same old pain again and again?
Then you have to start telling a new story. Your stories and your statements tend to be a reality in your life that can bring the> Self-fulfilling prophecy.
I know a woman who hated her job. She was afraid to stop because she was afraid she would not get a new one and they needed the income. She had a child that you have to put up with whatever bad situation you are currently in. They believed, because their parents had told her that she learned "nothing would run." Your current story, based on their past, was how much she disliked her job, her boss, her work assignments. Her story always ended with "Ijust can not stand it anymore. "After a few years tells the story, she developed foot problems so severe that they simply do not stand on their sore feet any more. She realized what she had done and wrote her story to describe their perfect job. Soon they found it quit the hated job, and finally was able to stand on its own feet. (By the way, this is manifested at its best).
Stories are powerful and can be our reality if often said reinforcing every negativewhat we can remember from the past.
Why not rewrite your story the way you want it? And why do not you start right now? Start living your story in the now. Write as you go. And if one believes the language of the ancient history of the limitation of the base - once you with the equivalent of that "Once upon a time" stuff, let it remind you that you start writing a new story, which begins today.
Put in your new story the things you're grateful for. Select the wonderfulFreedom you saved by forgiveness the ripen in your past that hurt you and how they have helped, and grow into an independent adult. Let these events to a very distant memory. Concentrate on giving the love and welcome you and your enthusiasm for what each day brings.
Your story can begin "Once upon today .. And end up with ... And I lived happily all day long." Tomorrow brings its own history.
It would be fun, this daily journal and its history in a year, read the first entry insee how wonderful your year to live in the now and tell your story was new.
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