To compare a good feeling, most of which compete with others and try to win in all areas of their lives. They do not realize, however, that this is often an expression of aggression against others, and ultimately to themselves.
If we want to be better than others, we are driven to ensure that they remain among us. We do what we can to keep them in their place and look for their faults and weaknesses. We can also enjoy theirHardships and losses. When famous people fall off their bases and suffer, many will feel relieved that they are not so much better after all.
How we compare themselves with other
Some are not able to relate to all the others, they feel "better than them.They their worlds with those that they feel are inferior to fill (and treat them in a way to keep them in their place. ) Some people are attracted to those who think they are better than them, and spend a lot of time trying to tear the persondown. Other members of sports teams and take on a large benefit against the other, which proves that they are "best".
Living this way you will not be in a position, the beauty and gifts, has everyone else and they share with you to see. This keeps you on edge, looking for ways that you can maintain your superiority. Relationships are power struggles. There is little satisfaction or true sense of self-esteem.
Pride Vs. Self-esteem
Pride creates agrandiose, false sense of self and causes that person from the close relationships to many situations, opportunities, and insights. Pride also leads to happiness to them from the link with his true self worth who they really are, what really brings.
A true self-esteem, on the other hand, offers pleasure in dealing with all types of individuals. With true self-esteem do not need to compare you with others to themselves, tearing them apart or feel. Superior Instead, you will be able to appreciate who they are and share your two gifts. As Emerson said, as a rose in the garden not to compare themselves with others. It flowers only, as it is intended.
Exercise
Step 1: Recognition of the many faces of Pride Make a list of those you feel better. Who are they? Why are you better than them? A) Make a list of those that you feel better than you. Who are they? How do you feel you feel? How do you deal with them to behave? ThisExercise will surprise you. Be honest with yourself, you can see also amazed at how many people you have to be written out of your life.
Step 2: Complete comparison
A) Pick someone on your list that you feel better. Write down all your positive qualities. Then you keep comparing this person. Let them know who they are. Let who you are, too. Enjoy the differences between you.
B) Do the same with someone you think is better than you. Can you allow both of you,have positive qualities, even though they otherwise might? Can you compare in this case as well?
Step 3: A new meeting
A) Contact the person you feel better than to go and eat with them at lunch. Talk to the fulfillment of all of them. Do not talk much. Is it something about them. Give them a chance to be the star. Do the same with someone who they are, the better you feel. You will be amazed to discover how many other long, heard and knew how shaky they know who they are his. AsYou do this, you will see that you do not tear down others to feel good about himself
Step 4: Each is the best
As soon as you notice, to feel even better than the other, have let it go and let the star. Realize that both of you can be wonderful. Once you feel that someone else better than you realize, do the same. Look for their good qualities and sell them. Find out more about them. Talk to listen to them about yourself and real. Let the truePerson they arise. Do not buy into a fantasy world. It's not going well.
Copyright (c) 2008 Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
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